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COVID Causing Divorces Now – What?



COVID Causing Divorces

Too much Pyaar 

Too much Tu and too much Main

Aur Ghar ki chik chik can rattle any marriage these days

Lockdown mein work from home

Household chores pe Jhagde

Bacchhe sambhalne ke bakhede

And the list goes on…

Lockdown surely put a puncture in many shaadi shuda lives these past few months. Causing so many couples feeling frustrated, suffocated, etc…

Ghar jaise jurassic park ban gaya hai.

Raise your hands if you are too putting up with your pati parmeshwar obnoxiously loud chewing habits. That chomping on snacks and leaving a trail of crumbs everywhere. Dirty laundry and of course a mountain of bartans in the sink, waiting. Eeeew!

Chill and breathe easy. Because the enemy this time may not be your man but a microbe. Couples around the world are falling apart and are seeking divorce. Here is why.

All at home, all of us, all the goddamn time!

All at home, all the time
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Are you and your husband spending days working from home? Days and nights all rolled into one? Are you overreacting because anger is piling up quickly? Have discussions been slowly swapped by sessions of yelling? 

Yes? Well, yours is not the only marriage that is having a hard time. Modern marriages these days are fragile. To keep up the pace with “space”, the Divorce rate spiked because many of us are time trapped with our significant other. 

Would you believe that there has been a major spike in divorce applications? Reported globally? Yes, the divorce figures are staggering. Contemporary middle-class Indians are following the trend too.

Many Indian homes are double-income households. Most of us are spending all day while working from home. And… so leads to ugly fights on petty matters. Earlier the average divorce filing cases were 1280 in a month. But now the figures have shot up to 3480 cases a month. Wow! Not surprised right?

Hold on but there is more. What added fuel to the fire was pay cuts & layoffs hitting hard too. I know most of you are bickering. Your headspace is just like a pressure cooker at this point and is waiting to blow off. But, But… Is divorce the only samadhaan?


Women, workload – weariness

Women, workload - weariness
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Working much? Too much? Then, I am sure you feel like lockdown is a Curse. taking office calls, cooking, managing kids, and doing all the household chores? 

But after a hectic day at the dinner table, you get complaints of imperfect daal and roti. And you feel inside that all this is so worthless. “Why? Why? Am I the only one doing everything around here” you scream inside. 

It takes a toll on you when you have ungrateful partners. Isn’t it? I usually find myself sobbing in my shower. With so much on my plate, kids and keeping up with their schooling. Home and keeping up a neat household, cooking, making sure my in-laws are taken care of. Uffff too much ho jata hai…

And, then burning the midnight oil to complete pending office work. All this chaos has pushed most women to reach out to their Divorce lawyers after lockdown. 

Many online legal advisors have reported that there has been a spurt in the divorce-related queries by men, too. And would you want to know why? Well, husbands are growing restless because wives are turning “hysterical”.  Even the tiniest instruction like “switching off an AC” is raising temperatures in relationships.

Of course, now you know why? Souring soulmates ?!?!

Source: Times of India

Battered better halves

Battered better halves
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Don’t you agree? And why not? Billions of us following the stay-at-home orders are trapped in our houses. You are being subjected to all kinds of violence by your abusive partners. More so, newer restrictions have made all of us less tolerant and more agitated. 

Have you read that news lately? Domestic abuse calls have reported a major spike on their helpline. There is more to this. The exponential rise of domestic violence cases has led to many child custody battles in India.

What’s agonizing and ironic, you know? Mumbai that topped the maximum COVID-19 cases in the country, sadly has also left many women in tears and spiked the divorce rate further.


Me-space poof-it’s gone!

Me-space poof-it's gone
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Don’t you think that personal space gayab ho gayi hai? Errr we are constantly stepping on the toes of each other. Ugly truth is that there’s barely any me-space or me-time left. Unfortunately, that’s suffocating us deep down inside. Do our homes even feel like homes, right now? Naah!

Also, are friends complaining about their significant others? You know why? Modern marriages are surviving only because of the “breathing space” policy. With boundaries fading out, we have begun to feel the bojh of our relationships. Nowhere to go, no friends to hang-out with, and partners getting on our nerves, uffff it gets frustrating.

“This lack of space and God! Too much time together has only added to this fire leading to family court.” says Founder of Legalkart.


Incompatibility is irksome: Agree to Disagree

Incompatibility is irksome- Agree to Disagree
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I am sure you agree, too much has changed and too quickly. What you could put up with, a few years back is now irritating you the most. Couples are heading for divorce after COVID owing to a difference of opinions. 

But, the deeper truth is it’s not the mask we wear outside. It’s one we wore inside which is now exposed in this lockdown. Incompatibility issues are now getting doubly magnified. It is acting as a catalyst for divorce. 

Some women were okay about their husband not helping out with household chores. As an excuse for office trips and busy schedules. But, now after the lockdown in close quarters, bitterness crept in.


Till corona (not) do us (a)part!

Till corona (not) do us (a)part
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Don’t just go out all ballistic on your marriage just yet. You are not alone in this. Most marriages are struggling their way to thriving out these testing times. Before you let your marriage become another COVID divorce statistic. Think of ways that make your wonderful bond thrive. 

What better time to talk about the hard issues and have open conversations than now? You are stuck indoors and there is time aplenty. If you are a pressure cooker holding the steam inside, slowly, let it out, or else your pot may explode. Find a middle ground to reconcile. Don’t bump into each other and cause friction. Carve your “me” time and keep yourself creatively busy.

Lastly, Pyar karo yaar jhagda nahin. Because it would be rather shameful if the temporary stress of Corona killed a union that was worth keeping alive.

Think about it! :))

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Nothing Matters More Than Your Mental Health – Check Out These Quintessential Ways to Boost Mental Soundness



Ways to boost Mental Soundness

It was a regular spring noon; Julie in her 30s, was doing the laundry in the backyard as no domestic help was available due to fear of COVID-19.

Suddenly she started feeling numbness in her hands. Her body felt hot. She was gasping for breath & blacked out for almost 5 minutes. Joe, her husband, immediately called up the family doctor.

After talking for a while, the doctor made a shocking revelation– “Julie is a chronic case of depression.” Joe’s heart skipped a beat. How was this even possible? After all, they were living a healthy lifestyle by exercising daily and keeping themselves busy.

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She did get some short panic attacks last month but then who cares to take anxiety seriously until it knocks you down unexpectedly.

The doctor prescribed some anti-depressants. He tried to analyse the cause of anxiety. Julie was spending most of her day consuming updates on the pandemic on television and social media.

Without even realizing, the uncertainty and stress of the Coronavirus  started taking a serious mental toll on her. She was a social butterfly! The isolation forced by quarantine and the feeling of being cut off from parents, friends, relatives began to have an unpleasant effect on her mental health. Making arrangements for grocery and medicines during the lockdown became a challenge. Deep inside, she was constantly fearing what will happen if her own family became a victim of Coronavirus.

Can you relate to Julie’s story? Almost every family has been through this during COVID pandemic.

So how do you even know that your mental health isn’t in a good state?

Someone can be perfectly healthy and yet feel as though there is something wrong with them.

Mental health awareness is important, even more, in today’s depressing times. If you are experiencing these symptoms, be wary my friend, could be a red flag!

1. An awkward fear

2. Numbness in body

3. Low mood

4. Irritability

5. Emotional exhaustion

6. Mood swings

7. Unreasonable anger

Julie focused more on exercising. There were a few routine workouts that she did. But she used to binge eat & that was a problem.

Ultimately you are what you eat and laughter is brightest where food is best. For sure she learnt that she needs to change what food she is gorging on mindlessly with special focus on mental health.

So here we are sharing some quintessential ways to boost your mental soundness. But, first things first.

What you should avoid at all costs?

1. Processed food – Start eliminating anything that is white or processed or carbonated in your meals. White sauce, pasta, fast food, gluten food, cold drinks – Strike these off your menu.

2. Sugar – Processed sugar is sweet poison. If you consume it moderately and don’t have any blood sugar problems, you are blessed. But if you over-consume or have a history of increased blood sugar levels, it will further trigger an imbalance in brain chemicals and increase the risk of developing a long term mental disorder. You may have abrupt mood swings. Trust me, it will completely zap your brainpower!

Avoid sugar for mental health
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Anxiety loves sugar. To satisfy your sweet tooth, replace sugar with sweet potatoes, jaggery, honey, dates, coconut sugar, juices sans extra sugar.

What you should have at all costs?

 Foods: Some super-foods deliver serious nutritional value for mental health and should have a permanent place in your kitchen or refrigerator:

1. Berries – Are full of antioxidants. Strawberries, raspberries, blueberries and blackberries boost your mental health in magical ways. Antioxidants repair cells that get damaged by pollutants. Berries also improve concentration.

eat berries to boost mental Health
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2. Walnuts – Walnuts look like a brain & that’s nature’s way of telling us they are good for mental health. They are full of antioxidants and help in the growth of brain cells. Include them in your diet, daily.

wallnuts for mental health
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3. Whole Grains – Oats, Quinoa and Barley are some of the whole grains rich in vitamin B that reduce inflammation of the brain. They also promote flow of blood to the brain. Your brain is happy when blood can flow to it easily! 🙂

Whole Grains for Mental health
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4. Beans – Beans stabilize blood sugar levels & also provide energy to the brain. Add some lentils and black beans to your meal. Beans are the secret to your brain’s energy!

Beans for Mental health
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5. Oily fish – Is also called the ‘brain food’. It has omega 3 fatty acid that contributes to optimal brain health and reduces anxiety. In case you ain’t fond of seafood, you can go for fish oil supplements.

Fish oil for mental health
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Other powerful ways, that you just shouldn’t ignore, to fight depression

Food is just a part of your overall mental wellness plan. Shaking & moving your body a bit, ensures your muscles & nerves don’t shrink and your brain is conditioned well.

1. Make a daily exercise routine: Depending on your fitness levels, start exercising daily. Begin with short bursts of exercise like walking, skipping, stretching, yoga, burpees or something you can do while sitting on the sofa or chair or bed. It’s that simple!

For anxiety, HIIT or high-intensity interval training is the BEST! When you exercise, endorphins are released that boost your mood. Tweak your routine, the moment it gets monotonous. Take up some cool fitness challenges with your buddies if exercises bore you.

make daily excercise routine
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 2. Practise meditation – Whether it is allopathy, ayurveda or homoeopathy, each one of these swears by meditation to calm down a hyperactive mind. Those who meditate regularly have better chances of recovering from any disease. It helps to manage negative emotions & makes you feel relaxed. Mindful meditation is becoming very popular these days. Start your meditation routine with 5 minutes and gradually increase the time. Nothing can be as easy as breathing in and breathing out, trust us!

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3. Give up on your drinking habits: People turn to alcohol to improve their mood and they get an instant ‘high’ after gulping a peg or two. In reality, alcohol intoxicates your mind. People soon get stuck in the cycle of addiction. Drink water instead! Squeeze half a lemon or add a spoonful of apple cider vinegar to it and just see the wonders it does to your body.

lemon or add a spoonful of apple cider vinegar
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4. Watch comedy shows: A good laugh reduces stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine, creating a relaxed environment for the mind. It also improves oxygen flow and releases tension in the muscles. FRIENDS, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, Two and a half men, The Kapil Sharma show, there are plenty of them to cheer you up. Stand up comedy shows are instant mood lifters.. Once you start watching, I swear your brain will begin discoing & forget that it has 100 billion neurons to take care of.

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5. Sleep: Last but not the least; don’t forget the power of sleep. It’s nature’s panacea and more powerful than any drug in the world.  At least 7 hours of sleep a day is necessary for your body to nourish. So keep calm and get your share of  beauty sleep, every single day!

sleep is good for mental health
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Relax! Eat well, sleep well, exercise regularly and try to avoid seeking to much information on COVID-19 updates.

On a more serious note

If you are really losing your enthusiasm for life or getting thoughts of harming yourself or others, see a psychiatrist without delay. If any of your fellas are going through this phase, never leave them alone. Talk about their past accomplishments and share success stories with them. Make them wanted and let them know how their absence might affect their loved ones negatively. More than anything, teach them self-love. Nothing matters more than their own mental health.

Believe in yourself! Depression is not a stigma. Talk it out. It’s only when you don’t talk about it, stigma wins.

So, be a fitnessista. Take charge of your mental health, starting today!

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Artificial Intelligence

An ‘Alexa’ for Doctors? Why Not? Said This Techie

He is the mastermind behind the clinical voice assistant tool. And he has a vision of having healthcare professionals with no burnouts.



Suki, clinical voice assistant tool

Hey Google!

Hey Siri!

Hey Alexa!

Hey Suki!

We’re sure that most of you are aware of the first three voice assistants and are using those in your day-to-day life.

Now, you might be wondering what this fourth one is?!

Well, you will get to know about that in no time but before that; do you know, 

A recent study published in the Annals of Internal Medicine states that physicians spend 27% of their time consulting patients?

And do you know where do physicians spend 49.2% of their remaining time?

It is in doing paperwork! And it also includes the use of the EHR (Electric Health Record) system.

The primary reasons behind physicians’ burnout could be:

  • No help available for doctors and physicians to do paperwork
  • Clinics and hospitals are reluctant to invest in clerical and administrative support

Well, it is! It is totally related to our talks.

There is a technology that can assist the doctors in the monotonous documentation work; saves the precious time of the patients’ as well as their own.

And that technology is Artificial Intelligence (AI).

Leveraging this same technology, a US-based startup founded by Punit Soni has developed a clinical voice assistant named Suki.

Suki app on appstore

It is aiming to help doctors and physicians with documentation work, and create more time for doctors to treat their patients, which is indeed their primary job.

A brilliant move of technology into the healthcare system, don’t you think?

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The Beginning of Suki

Suki Co founder, Punit Soni

The co-founder of Suki, Punit, is a techie guy who has served as lead project manager for 8 years in Google, and chief product officer in Flipkart.

He was mainly into the development of mobile applications and games.

So, how did this nerdy techie get introduced into the healthcare system?

It was when he shadowed the doctors in a clinic.

When he was in the clinic, there was a stressful situation wherein many patients were getting treated, and many intense works were taking place.

In such a situation, the most distracted persons he could find were the doctors!


Because he found them immersed in the documentation work instead of treating the patients.

This was when he came up with the thought of creating a tool that can assist the healthcare professionals in doing the paperwork. And hence they could focus on their patients with more care and empathy.

And in 2016, Punit started his journey in the healthcare industry by launching Suki.

A Much-Needed Tool for Physicians

A Much-Needed Tool for Physicians

How does Suki work?

This clinical voice assistant records, transcribes, and organizes doctors’ conversations with their patients. And then, it completes the data entry that is required for EHR.

By taking care of this tedious documentation process, Suki has enhanced the relationship between a doctor and a patient.

As per a recent white paper published by Suki, this voice assistant has increased the time spent by the doctors with their patients by 12% by cutting down the note-taking time by 76%.

This is undoubtedly a win-win situation for both patients and doctors.


When a happy and stress-free physician spends more time with the patients, treatment would be more effective. And that would cause faster recovery.

And for the doctors, the application of voice assistant brings a financial benefit of  $30,000 or more a year on average.

And hence, Suki, as a tool, has improved the healthcare system by  :

  • Structuring the format of the healthcare management
  • Happier physicians with no burnout
  • Increase in the profit of healthcare organization, and
  • A better outcome for patients

In one of his interviews, Punit expressed that the feedback from the CIO (Chief Information Officer), CMIO (Chief Medical Informatics Officer), and administrators were critical for Suki.

But what mattered to him the most was how Suki would help physicians work professionally and make their lives easier.

He is undoubtedly the rarest technology professional who realized that physician burnout is the most critical public health crisis that had to be addressed.

The Challenges He Had to Face

The Challenges faced by Suki founders

The journey of Suki was not a cakewalk.

Punit, and his technology team, had little to no idea about how a day would be like in a physician’s life, or they couldn’t spare time to observe and study their workflow.

So, to get access to the data that would help him develop Suki, he took physicians onboard as his colleagues.

Was it an effortless task for him to recruit and keep physicians in his team?

No, not at all.

It became difficult for Punit to create a workspace that could be ideal for both physicians and techies.

But he knew that to make Suki a success, both technologists and physicians had to work hand in hand. Therefore, even though it was challenging to understand each other’s work culture, ethics, and process, it was all worth it in the end.

The next challenge ahead of him was getting permission from physicians to introduce Suki in clinics and hospitals.

But most of the physicians did not agree to use the tool that was built only for them.


Before Suki, the technology field had developed many tools for physicians but not keeping them in mind.

These tools, instead of easing their work, added more burden on them. They used these tools only because the system forced them to do so.

When Punit approached them with Suki, most of the physicians were hesitant. But he assured them, saying that, if they used it, from day 1, their time spent on paperwork would reduce by 50 – 70%.

And guess what?

Physicians and the healthcare system agreed to welcome Suki.

And hence, it got its entry into the healthcare industry.

Even after Suki’s successful launch, Punit had to address questions regarding his intention behind this tool.

“Are you going to replace doctors with Suki?”, many curious people couldn’t resist but ask him.

He replied with an explanation that Suki has no intention of replacing doctors. But only to assist them so that they could do their job of treating their patients in the best way possible.

How could anyone think of replacing our super strong-minded professional folks, isn’t it?

What’s New in Suki?

Suki gets constant updates

“It was a tough job to make Suki a reliable, seamless, perfect and consistent tool for healthcare, where one can not entertain mistakes,” says Punit.

He has plans of scaling up Suki and making it even more reliable and efficient.

In this direction, Suki has come up with a newly updated platform that incorporates data collected by Suki and teaches the AI to respond to the users faster and accurately.

And that is S3 or the Suki Speech Service platform. With this new upgrade, doctors can communicate with Suki casually, without confusing it.

Punit has a vision of making Suki an invisible and assistive tool to the healthcare professionals, and hopes that many technologies would show up to upgrade the healthcare industry.

We, at TBM, wish the team of Suki all the best for future endeavours. And hope that Suki would bring a smile on each physicians’ face because they deserve it.

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An Entrepreneur Who Aims to Save Womanhood from Breast Cancer

Her personal loss made her realize the importance of breast health and make a world free of breast cancer deaths.



Dr. Geetha Manjunath, Entrepreneur who Saves Womanhood from Breast Cancer

According to the Breast Cancer Statistics report, there were 1,62,468 new breast cancer cases and 87,090 deaths in 2018.

Every 4 minutes, an Indian woman is diagnosed with breast cancer, and it accounts for 14% of cancers in Indian women.

These statistics prove that breast cancer has become common, and is affecting Indian women to a large extent.

To make women aware of their breast health, and detect breast cancer at an earlier stage, a Bangalore-based woman came forward with her innovation.

She is Dr Geetha Manjunath, who joined hands with her colleague Nidhi Mathur, to build an artificial intelligence-based healthcare startup known as Niramai Health Analytix.

Niramai aims to bridge the gap between demand and supply in quality healthcare, and owns 9 US patents and 1 Canadian patent.

This is not all. Dr Geetha’s  Niramai is the only Indian company listed in the 2019 Cohort of AI 100 startups in the world.

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A Tragedy that Led to a New Beginning

Niramai Health Analytix
Source: Franchise India

All was well in Dr Geetha’s life until news broke about her beloved cousin’s last stage breast cancer.

She was shocked. She couldn’t believe that her cousin had only a few months left in her hand.

Before she could come to terms with this loss, she had to face another tragedy, and this time it was her sister-in-law.

And the cause of the death?

Again, breast cancer.

She thought to herself, “Why couldn’t her cousin and sister-in-law detect this disease in the earlier stage?”

She decided to find out the answer.

As she was researching, she found out 4 reasons why Indian women don’t check their breast health.

  • The present detection method, Mammography, is costly (3500/- per test)
  • This detection method doesn’t work on women below 45 years of age
  • It is inaccessible in tier 2 and tier 3 cities of India
  • The stigma or shyness attached to breast health problems among women

She also found out women visit the doctor only after realizing a lump in the breast (almost 25 mm in size!).

And this is the indication of stage 3 or stage 4 of breast cancer, after which none of the treatments would work.

And this is the reason for the 50 to 60% mortality rate in breast cancer!

Dr Geetha realized early detection is the key to breast cancer treatment.

And she also found that the current detection technology uses the X rays, increasing cancer risk in women upon continuous exposure.

So Dr Geetha decided to look for a radiation-free, pain-free, affordable and accessible solution.

This is how Niramai came into existence in 2016 to innovate an early detection method for breast cancer.

She Used Her Expertise to Bring the Change

Dr Geetha used Technology to cure breast cancer

Soon after realizing that more focus, learning and hard work is required for her innovation, she decided to quit her job at Xerox Research Centre.

A woman with determination to solve a prevailing problem, don’t you agree?

During her interaction with radiologists, she came across the concept of thermal imaging, which is radiation free.

She got fascinated and enquired about why this method has not been included in the detection process.

She found out, from many doctors and health care specialists, that thermal imaging is complicated to interpret and is error-prone.

So she decided to make this thermal imaging easier to interpret with artificial intelligence and machine learning.

You may be wondering how Dr Geetha is familiar with these technologies?

Fortunately, she has a PhD in Artificial Intelligence (AI) and Machine Learning (ML) from IISc, Bangalore.

Thus, she developed software using these technologies that could analyze and interpret complex data patterns.

And hence, she came up with the new innovative detection method for breast cancer – Thermalatyx.

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Innovation That Can Save Many Lives

Innovation That Can Save Many Lives

“Innovation is seeing what everybody has seen, and thinking what nobody has thought”- Dr Albert Sunt -Gyorgyi.

Dr Geetha had a thought that nobody had imagined before, which led to the discovery of Thermalatyx.

In Thermolatyx method, a thermosensor is placed at a distance of 3 feet from a woman. It identifies 400,000 temperature values around the chest and measures the temperature variations.

And the software developed with AI and ML analyzes these temperature variations.


If a tumour is present, the temperature surrounding it would be high.

This high-temperature pattern could be because of the irregular cell division, higher metabolic rate, or higher blood flow rate at the tumour region.

These higher temperature patterns could be identified and analyzed by the software, and would help determine the likelihood of cancer formation or any other infections in the breasts.

Is it that simple? No, says Dr Geetha.

The higher temperature patterns could be because of many reasons.

She believed that to determine whether the higher temperature patterns are because of tumour formation or not, ML could play a significant role.

Dr Geetha says one has to teach the ML model to study and analyze the complex patterns, and that’s what she did.

She trained her ML model by using several cancerous and non-cancerous thermal images. Hence, her model could identify the temperature patterns associated with tumour formation.

And the outcome?

Every woman can receive an accurate and reliable breast health report.

Women whole-heartedly welcomed this detection method because it is safe, non-touch, radiation-free, low-cost and last but not least, is privacy-aware.

Not Only for India But for the World

Not Only for India But for the World

Do you know what Niramai means?

It means to be free from illness or diseases in the Sanskrit language.

This is what Dr Geetha and her team hopes for womanhood and the entire world.

She believes that late detection of breast cancer is a global problem. She wants to reach every woman by making Thermalatyx available at hospitals, diagnostic centres, corporate offices, and rural areas.

Dr Geetha aims to expand Niramai to other Asian countries, the US and Europe.

She hopes that one day the same technology could be used to detect the other abnormalities.

TBM is proud of Dr Geetha and the Niramai team, trying to stop painful deaths due to breast cancer, which is easily curable if detected earlier.

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